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Warning: “Not Bad” is Not Good

March 13, 2012

If you’ve heard me talk, you know I often quote Jim Collins and say:  Good is the Enemy of Great.  If you’re good at something, it’s very easy to be satisfied, to stop striving.

Many people can be good, only a few can be great. You have to break away from the pack.

Lately, I’ve been thinking how often we not only don’t pursue great, we settle for less than good, and how with a little bit of effort and a willingness to change we can go from “not bad” to “good”.

It’s not as big a leap as Good To Great, but it’s easier to go from “not bad” to “good” and you can do it on almost a daily basis.

For example.

I just finished a wonderful Blueberry muffin that I bought at the Ritz Carlton Tokyo coffee shop.  It was full of blueberries, nice and fluffy. It came in the most wonderful wrapping [I really don't know how they wrapped it] and was handed to me by a young woman,  impeccably dressed.

The cost was just  $2.50.  The muffins at the local branch of  the  imported food shop near my house cost three bucks and they are “not bad”.  They are better than the doughy humongous  ones you get at Costco, but they are still never good, just “not bad.”

It took a little bit of effort -a twenty minute walk-to get the muffins from the Ritz Carlton, but it’s worth it.  I probably won’t  do this everyday, but it’s worth it.

One of my consulting clients continuously referred to his marketing department as “not bad”.  When he finally took some action and brought in some better qualified staff, he began a whole series of new campaigns and he got more excited about his work.  His marketing people were “damn good”, he told me. His life and his business improved.

The gym I used to go to was also “not bad.” So was my dentist, my apartment, my internist.  All “not bad”.  I didnt hate them and I didn’t love them.  Just “not bad”.  Not “good” either.

I often talk about surrounding yourself with the best people possible.  As I thought about my life and how to make it better, I changed  a lot of these small things.

I found a a wonderful dentist, a magnificent apartment ,a great gym,  and an excellent internist. It took a while to find and change them all, but as I did, my life got appreciably better.  Yes, really better. Much better.

Small things like this can make a big difference.

It just a willingness to change and make the extra effort.

“Not Bad” is “Not Good”

The next time you say this [I know some people say it almost reflexively], think about what it would take to make it good, if not great.

Usually, it’s just a few extra steps.

If you run a business, a restaurant, a department, a school, a class and people say it’s “not bad”.   It’s reason to worry. Is this enough for you?  It is most likely not going to be enough for your customers.  What would it take to get people to say “good”?

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When Is The Best Time To Change Jobs?

March 10, 2012

My friend J told me I was crazy to quit my job as a visiting professor in Thailand.

I was teaching at Thailand’s top university.They put me up in a great hotel and I lived as an expat. I ate great food  and I never experienced Japan’s summers or winter months because I would be in Thailand instead. Truthfully there were a lot of things I liked about the job.

But for me, one thing was missing and that was the opportunity to learn something new.  After six years, the challenge was gone. I was just going through the motions and I didn’t want to do it “just for the money” or even the suntan.

So I quit.  Not abruptly.  I just told the university I wouldn’t be coming back for a seventh year and gave them enough time to hire someone else.

They kept calling and asking me to return.  I really loved the people, but I haven’t gone back.  There was just not anything else for me to do there.  The teaching was not enough.  I need to feel like I am also learning something.

To me, the lack of a chance to learn is one of the most important reasons to quit.

In any job, you want three things:

1.to be fairly compensated,

2. you want to make a contribution;  and

3. you want to be able to learn something.

People  usually quit for the first reason, or at least that’s what they say.  They choose a new job for the the second reason.

Too often they ignore the third reason.   But it is often the most important.

One of the reasons I stayed at my full-time university position in Japan so long was that in 19 years, I could always learn something.

How about in your job?  Is there a chance to learn?  Can you take advantage of those chances?

Do you tell people your job is boring?  It may be because the learning has stopped.  Is there anything you can do to make it more interesting.

Some of my former students are working for General Electric.  It’s a place that chooses the best people and challenges them continuously.  I never hear these graduates complain— because the learning is non-stop.

Last night, I had dinner with another former student who just started working for a government agency in southern Japan.  In his own words, he  told me he “is doing only routine work”.  ”Routine work” means basically filling out forms and scheduling deliveries.  For him, it just could not get more routine than this. There is no chance to do anything else for three years, which is basically his time for training.

One problem: It’s  killing his spirit.  I asked him if there was any way he could make the job more challenging, if there were things he could learn there.   [It's always best to see if you can find some learning where you are before you leave.]

He told me there really wasn’t and I believe him. He’s decided to leave after just a few months. To him, it’s the right choice, the only choice now.

When the learning stops, or when the chance for learning doesn’t exist.  That’s the best time to quit.

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Don’t Lose Today’s Chance That Will Surely Come Your Way

March 4, 2012

When I was in graduate school, I had a lot of part time jobs.  I was a bartender, I demonstrated toys in a department store, I promoted a meditation program for losing weight [Being Thin], and I taught part-time at a local university.

When I went to the local ABC TV station in Boston to promote my client, Being Thin, I had a great talk with the producer and the news director, who was Andy Rooney’s daughter.  They weren’t interested in my client. They were interested in me.

They wanted to know where I went to school, what I was studying, and why I looked so happy.  I kept on trying to bring the topic back to my client, they kept on asking me what I knew about.  Finally, they asked me if I wanted to be on TV?

I didn’t know if I heard them correctly.  They had an opening at the end of Wednesday’s noon news program for someone to talk about “feeling good, about dealing with stress, about getting along with your family and your boss, stuff like that.

I gave them a lot of excuses, “I’m not good looking enough”, “I don’t know enough”, “You really should use the people from my client.”  They didn’t buy it. They wanted me.

Finally, I said, “yes, I’ll do it.”  I was there on Tuesday and they wanted me to start the next day.

I did it.   I stayed up the whole night preparing my three minutes and the next day I was on TV talking about reducing stress. After my segment, I answered phone calls from listeners, including some relatives I had lost touch with.  This segment continued for several weeks and I had a lot of fun.

The other graduate students couldn’t believe they were watching me on TV. My professors at graduate school watched me on TV and liked what I had to say.   The only ones who were upset were my clients and unfortunately we had to part company.

This was one chance I didn’t let go and I’m glad I did it.

But I did have another chance that I let go.

I had just started a job as an assistant professor at a state university in California. Peter Drucker, the famed management scholar was teaching at a nearby university.  He was not a good speaker and was looking for someone articulate who could explain his theories to large audiences.  He was looking for someone who could develop training programs around his theories.  One day I got a call asking me if I was interested in being that person.  It was a chance to start something new.  It was a chance to work with Peter Drucker.

I was afraid. I didn’t take that chance.  I never got another call.

I don’t look back with regret since my life has turned out fine. But, as I think about that chance today, I also think about what stopped me from taking that chance as well as other chances that I didn’t take and I wonder what kept me back.

Fear was undoubtedly the major reason.

I have finally learned to take chances when they do come my way, even when I am not quite ready. I have very little to lose and a lot to gain.

Every day, it seems as if we have new chances.  Chance to meet people who might change our lives.  Chance for a new job.  Chance to eat a new kind of food.  Chance to try a new coffee shop.  Some are small things. Some are big things.

It’s hard to know which ones are good and which ones are bad, but some are worth taking if we can put our fear aside, even temporarily.

Complacency and fear keeps us where we are.  Some chances aren’t worth taking, but when some come our way, we really should grab them, especially if we are unhappy where we are.

It’s like being in a prison and the warden comes over to you with the key that will let you leave.  And you stay there.

If you are in a situation that you would like to change, recognize that everyday, “the warden comes to you with the key, with another chance to do something else”.

Grab the key, take the chance.

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The Courage To Create: Keio Final Lecture

February 25, 2012

 

Hi. Today’s Blog Post is a Long One.  It’s my final lecture at Keio University where I taught for 19 years.

I gave a shorter version of this talk at Roppongi Hills and you can see the video here:

 

The slides for the shortened version are on slides share here.

There’s info about the courses I taught  here.

 

 

The Courage To Create, Dr. Bob Tobin, Professor Emeritus, Keio University Faculty of Business and Commerce

January 17, 2012

Believe me when I tell you I didn’t expect to be here today. I came to Japan in 1989 for two months and now 22 years later and after 19 years at Keio, I am still here and giving this talk.  It seems that everything I know begins with the letter C: Communication; Creativity; and Change.

Today I want to talk about something else. It also begins with a C, and it’s Courage-and in particular the courage it takes to create something. It’s about the role courage has played in my own life and the role it can play in yours. Courage is not just for people in the army.  Courage is the most important ingredient  you need in living a life that matters and making a contribution in this world.

You may know the similar words– risk, taking chances, but I want to use the word courage because that’s the word that puts the responsibility where it belongs. Right on me and right on you.  When I think back on my 19 years at Keio, although I have taught many courses, given many presentations and written many articles, it’s actually “courage” that has been the most important message that I have tried to get across to people. I have encouraged others to have the courage to dream, the courage to change, the courage to be who they are, the courage to follow their own path, the courage to communicate with others, the courage to take the next step.

My journey to Keio actually started in graduate school at Boston University. I studied organizational behavior.  The quickest way to explain organizational behavior is that its a field that involves the study of psychology, sociology and business. This field gave me a very wide view of the world. I learned about people, groups and organizations.

At Boston University, I learned how important it was to have passion about your work. I also learned that being a professor is the best job in the world. It’s a career where you are always learning and have a chance to have an impact on young peoples lives.  I also learned about the importance of getting out of your comfort zone.

One professor told me that every year he threw out his notes from the previous year so he would always be up to date.  I loved this idea and have always taught each class from scratch, never the same. I took a course in management but it was taught by the accounting professor. I wondered what this accounting professor knew about management, but of course he  knew a lot about management. He brought a completely new perspective to the course.  He broke out of his own field, his comfort zone and we all learned a lot.  Courage is what it takes to get out there.

I taught at Boston University and worked as a consultant and then moved to Long Beach. California and  taught at Pepperdine University. I loved California and had no intention of leaving until I had an opportunity to go to Asia and work as a consultant for the U.S. Military.  The military asked me twice to go to Asia and both times I said no. The third time they asked me, I had to go.  I worked for the military all over Asia–Korea, Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong and when I came to Japan, I loved it right away.

I wanted to stay as long as I could, but my life and work was based In America. Then I did something that took courage.  After about 6 months in Japan, I took a chance and quit the job with the military–and decided to stay in Japan without any job.  I was over 40 sharing a tiny apartment and I had no job and I had to start all over.  Eventually I got work as a consultant helping Japanese companies expand overseas.  Every morning, limousines would come to my small apartment and take me to many Japanese companies for work-any company that began with an N.  NEC, Nippon Steel, NTT, NKK, NHK.

I missed teaching and eventually I applied for a position at Keio and started as a part time instructor.   I was glad to be teaching again. I taught first in Fujisawa and then at Hiyoshi. Eventually, The Faculty of Business and Commerce hired me as the first full time non-Japanese professor.  It took me a long time to find my own way here. Some people told me “be yourself”, others told me “we want you to help the faculty” and others told me “when in Rome,  do as the Romans do”.   I didn’t know what to do. I’m not a Roman.  I had to find my own way and it was not so easy.  I had many culture clashes and culture bumps, but what the hell that is part of life.  I didn’t come to Keio to be popular. I came here to do something, to teach something. My motto became, “be great and have fun.” and believe me that was a stretch for me because it was far from how I was feeling.

I wanted to be the kind of professor who inspires people and make a difference at Keio and in peoples lives and I wanted to enjoy it here.  After I began to settle in, I started going with my strengths-creativity, innovation, communication and that seems to have worked.  I didn’t shore up my weaknesses.  In fact, I tell people go with your strengths.  That is how you add value.  We all have weaknesses, but don’t focus on them.  It turns out that what I was best at was creating a good atmosphere for learning.

I created a place here at Keio where where students could achieve more than they believed possible, where students would always be challenging themselves, where students could be themselves,  where learning was collaborative, and where students could follow a path different than the usual one.  And in the same way I pushed my students I pushed myself.

When new faculty come to Keio University or when my students start new jobs and they ask me for advice, I tell them something very simple, “Be great and Have fun”.  That was my motto here.

Good makes you complacent, but if you want to be great at something, you keep at it, you work at it.  You have to work very hard it and not give up. When my students tell me something is difficult, I have one answer that they know very well.  Difficult is good!  And when I had difficult times here, I said to myself too, difficult is good.  People think that the road to success is a straight line, but more typically it is up and down. And if you want to create something, you stay with it because it’s worth it.  You work through the ups and downs. If you want to create something, you never give up, like a daruma.

This has been my path here at Keio, up and down and always working at creating something new here and trying to make a positive difference.  I created an environment where I and my students could do something different, work with very few barriers, go beyond expectations, and take a very broad view of education.  What I learned in finding my own way,  is that you don’t ask if it’s ok for you to do something, to be yourself. You don’t ask for permission. You don’t  follow the rules either, you make the rules and sometimes you break the rules.  but you don’t tell anyone. You just do it.

Thankfully there have been people here who have understood what I wanted to do here and worked  closely with me.  There are many people in this hall today who understand that philosophy.  There are people who quit careers in banking to help people in Cambodia and others who just rented a truck and brought food to Touhoku or rescued animals there. They didn’t ask if it was ok to help.  They just did it. They went up there and helped.  They never talk about themselves and they never complain. They just do it.

I recognize that in Japan it is not easy for people to create something new or even go their own way. The pressure to conform is so strong here. Being great usually means breaking away from the pack, being different from the rest of the group.    But I have news for you:  You are different than everyone else.  And I have another piece of news for you. People break away from the pack all the time here and it might as well be you.

People like Hiroshi Mikitani , founder of Rakuten, who was one of the first guest speakers I invited here, broke away. And Mr. Dyson broke away and created a vacuum cleaner for men, a vacuum cleaner without bags, a vacuum cleaner that cost 5 x more than any other.  He didn’t ask for permission.  He just did it. And it became a big success.

When you think about taking a new step or a step in a different direction, the question to ask yourself is:  “why not?”  It takes courage to be first, to break away from the pack, but you pave the way for many other people and you might even create a revolution.

People may tell you you’re crazy, but so what. Crazy people can get things done.  Crazy people change the world.  The people who criticize you are ones who are really jealous that you are doing what they wish they could do–if they did not have fear.  Be the first and you pave the way for others.  And if you’re lucky, they will call you a pioneer.

If you want to summon up your courage, there are 3 things you need to do.   First, you have deal  with your fear.  You have to know what is holding you back.  The biggest enemy of courage is fear-fear of failure, fear of success, fear of your parents, boss, fear of what other people think, fear of being called a gaijin. Recognize that you have the fear, put  your fear aside and make peace with it. What’s the worst thing that  can happen?  Lose money?  Be embarrassed?  Your mother will be upset? Lose your car?

In teaching at Keio, I have told my students to write down everything they are worried about and throw it away.  You can’t give a talk, make a plan, have a dream when you are overcome by fear. Don’t get angry at your fear. Make peace with it.  Don’t let it consume you-just keep it on the side and shake hands with it.The absence of fear gives you power beyond your imagination.

I know about fear first hand.  When I was younger, I will tell you honestly that was afraid to give a speech in class.  I was petrified.  I would be absent on days I was supposed to give a speech. Early in my career as a professor, I had a chance to work with Peter Drucker who wanted me to collaborate with him, but I skipped that chance because of fear. So, I know it, but I have learned to put my fear on the side. Sometimes this is what you have to do.

Courage also requires you to have passion, but it’s hard to have passion when you have so much fear.  That’s why I talked about fear first. If you have the passion- a fire inside you to do something, to make something happen, to do something that you absolutely have to do, then the courage will come.  Some people tell me that they don’t know what they want, they don’t feel any passion.  But I don’t believe them. I ask a lot of questions. What do you love? What do you hate?  Where do you want to be?  What kind of lifestyle do you want?  Eventually their passion surfaces.  In some cases, we are afraid to recognize the passion we have because we don’t think we can achieve it. Sometimes it’s buried and then our job is to dig it up.

The third thing you need for courage is to be with the right people.  Surround yourself with the best people.  You will be helped if you get the right people around you.  You’ve got to find the right friends and life partner too.  I am fortunate that I found someone who loves me and supports me and I found colleagues here at Keio and friends who have done the same. You can do it alone, but It helps if you have someone who supports you, who believes in you.  It could be friends, colleagues, a boss, a partner, husband or wife.  If you don’t have such a person, find them.  If you are with people who are doing nothing or don’t support you , you may need to leave them and find some who will.

Let me tell you how it all comes together.  As a consultant and researcher I was working with human resource managers and mid level managers in Japanese companies. I didn’t like it very much.  I wanted to do something big–something that would make a difference.  One of my best friends told me I shouldn’t be working with mid level managers and supervisors–I should be working with CEO’s.   I was scared out of my mind but eventually I started interviewing and working with CEO’s of foreign companies.  I needed that push. I’m forever thankful to that friend who saw potential in me.  We can do the same for others–especially as professors. we can see the potential of our students and our younger colleagues and provide support to them.  Thankfully throughout my career here, I have found excellent colleagues here.

The students and graduates who are here today are a courageous bunch, They work hard, they want to change the world, they want to start their their own companies, they have started pioneering projects, they are volunteering in Touhoku, they have left their own countries to be here, they are on the plane to Silicon Valley to work with start ups there, they are actors, they are a great bunch. They have the courage to create their own path and I’m proud of them and fortunate to be with them. They have made my life better.  Students who I work with in my classes now tell me they want to change the world, they reach out to young people in Burma and Bangladesh, they want to create their own clothing brands, they want to combine sport with business, they want to do something for Japan.  They want to be great and have fun.

They ask the tough questions:

How can I live a life that makes a difference?  Am I willing to let myself be fully alive?  Am I willing to put myself out there?  To live my values? Am I willing to be honest with everyone? With myself?

When they talk with me, they don’t ask me what’s on the exam, or how can I get an A.  They are asking the questions I always ask myself.

About eight years ago, my passion for my work here at Keio was failing and I was not sure I could continue.  I had lost my passion–it’s natural and I decided I needed a change. I thought about leaving and returning full time to consulting. Before I changed jobs, I thought I would take a trip.  If you ever feel stuck, change the environment–take a trip.  The trip I took wasn’t  a vacation at fancy hotels basking in the sun.

I took a backpacking trip around SE Asia and stayed in low price hotels and hostels, took only buses and motorbikes and ate only the local food.  I ate with people holding chickens and some holding rifles. I was in a bus that was hijacked the day before. I went all around Cambodia, Thailand and Laos carrying only a knapsack. I noticed during this one month trip that I didn’t gravitate towards talking with business people or professors.   Instead, I just instinctively went everywhere to see art and meet artists.  I had always loved art but in focusing on teaching, writing and consulting, I had pushed aside my interest in art, but your passion for creativity never dies

When I came back from my trip and went home, I knew I had to do something different and it wasn’t about leaving Keio. After I came home, I told my partner Hitoshi that I wanted to open an art gallery.  I think i caught him a bit off guard, but to my surprise, he not only said yes, but he said ok , we’ll do it together.  [See what I mean about finding the best people who will encourage you?]  Believe me this took courage because we didn’t know anything about running an art gallery.  I think he knew that if I had the passion to do this, I would have to do this. I had taught business and had been a consultant but it’s not the same as running a business. We started out first in our home and then moved to some smaller spaces and at we now have a beautiful space in Nihonbashi.  Together Hitoshi and I  created a business.

Many people ask me why an art gallery?   Believe me it was not for the money. I also can’t draw a straight line.  I tell people I had to do it because I had the passion.  I did it because I wanted to change peoples lives with art.  I did it because I wanted to help all of the artists I had met in Asia. I also tell people that the gallery is the same as my teaching. In the gallery, we are breaking down stereotypes   In the gallery we are changing peoples lives with art.  We are providing something that inspires people. In the gallery, we are encouraging people to be bold and courageous and think in new ways.

We help people in the gallery. And not just the artists.  We can see how happy people are when they add art to their life.  We created a community of art and artists and customers.  It took courage to open a gallery because it is our taste out there. we have to say “this is what I think is interesting art.”  What is very clear to me now is that the artists have great courage.  It takes courage to put your work out there where everyone can see it and say,” this is what I do”. It’s easy to copy other people but to do something that no one else has done before is what the best artists do.

These are the artists I work with.  It’s artists who are continuously changing. It’s artists who start with an empty canvas.  It’s artists who throw away the manual, who cross borders.

it’s artists who recognize that a struggle is part of life.  Although the world seems very far from business, people in business and education can learn a lot from the way artists work, especially about courage. When Muji wanted to improve their business strategy because the old strategy wasn’t working, they burned all of their old stock. Sometimes our  past can handicap us. Just like an artist, Muji started again with a blank canvas.  Stanford many years ago was not an excellent university.  They decided they would be the Harvard of the west. They set a high courageous goal and they achieved it.

One of my favorites is a Brazilian company, SEMCO that my students know about.  This is a company where employees decide their own salaries, they decide who will do what job, they decide where the factory will be located and how the products will be priced.  They break all the rules, like many artists, and are very successful.

After we started the gallery, my work here at Keio got a second wind.  I came alive again and I had more determination than ever to make a contribution to Keio.   Running the gallery brought more creativity to my teaching.  My work at Keio became more real. My writing got better.  My presentations at companies increased.  I made major changes in the way I taught, more honesty, more real, clearer, more direct. The classroom was more like a workshop than a lecture class.  I often sat in the back.  We worked on projects.  I talked less and the students took on more leadership. We talked about careers, about meaning in work, about life and about love. We created a community.  Students kept sketchbooks rather than notebooks. Students went out in the community for field trips. Students worked on projects that they implemented and we created a community beyond the classroom. Many members of that community are here today.

What I didn’t expect is that the gallery also helped me rethink the way I thought about business and about teaching too.  I began to see business and teaching in a very different way. I saw business and teaching too about: Creating Community of Customers and the people we work with; Making a Contribution to the World.  I learned that business is about relationships, learning and about trust, honesty and integrity.  If you notice that this sounds like a a traditional Japanese way of doing business, you are correct.

This year, my career at Keio comes to an end.  It is really tempting to stay on and teach a couple of classes and stay in contact with the students and colleagues who are here.  I love it here and I love Keio but to stay here would be to be untrue to my own philosophy and beliefs. Where else can I find such a wonderful community, a community that after every class, some students come up to me and say thank you to me after my classes?  It’s very comfortable here but I have always told students, “don’t be too comfortable”.  “Difficult is good”, I have told my students.  Instead get out of your comfort zone.  And that’s what I’m going to do.

And today, it’s my turn to take the next steps, to do something new.  People ask me what I am going to do. I am going to do something new, something different”.  It’s also my turn to say thank you to you all. Thank you for coming into my life and welcoming me into your community. Thank you for helping me learn  so much.  I want to tell you that It’s been an honor to be a member of this faculty. I am a better person because of you and because of Keio University. I have everyone in the room to thank for helping me develop my way here and to create something. I thank you all.

This is my least lecture at Keio but before I finish, I want to show you a chart that I  sometimes use in my classes.   On one side of the continuum is caution and on the other side is courage. Where would you put yourself on this chart?  What would it take for you for you to move one or two steps up?  Are you going to be someone who does something rather than someone who is going to do something?  Someone who will make a difference.

I urge you to find the courage to create something great. And don’t forget to have fun:  Be great and have fun. Thank You.

 

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Want Success? Take The Long View

June 6, 2013

You’ve heard of people who have had overnight success.  They usually say it  took them 20 years.  At least.

UnknownThere is such a thing as instant success, but more typical in creative fields is someone– a singer, an artist, a writer, a teacher, who works at their craft or art for years and then becomes well known or popular.

Yayoi Kusama is now 84 years old and is one of the most popular Japanese artists. She just had a major collaboration with  Louis Vuitton and her paintings sold for $2 Million last week at Art Basel Hong Kong. Her prints are selling for $8-10,000 USD now but I can remember when I could have bought hundreds of them for $500 each. Framed. [That was only about 12 years ago.] It has taken her many years to achieve this kind of recognition.

About a year ago, we had a show in the gallery with a foreign artist. We brought him here to Japan, paid for hotel, air ticket etc.  At the end of the show, we didn’t sell one painting.  Not one.  We were all disappointed, but not sad.  The artist felt bad for us, but he didn’t stop being an artist.  He told us, “this is what I do, I’ll continue painting.

We’ve had some success in selling his work since then. We’ve worked hard to get the work seen and he has done the same.

People ask me how they can achieve success as an artist.  [I wonder the same thing about myself as a writer. ] I answer them, “let you work be seen, let people know what you do, let them see what you do.”

And by them, I don’t mean only gallery owners if you are an artist, or record companies if you are a musician. I mean show and speak everywhere.  Use the multiple channels that are open to all of us, including etsy, Facebook, linked in, twitter, and more.

One of our artists, just turned 50.  He’s been working at another job for twenty-five years.  All this time, he has been working at his art too and for the past five years, he has been putting it out on Google, Facebook, Twitter and more..  He has  become a star on the internet with thousands of followers.  He wins award after award.  One of his pieces just sold at auction. Magazines and newspapers contact him for images.  Two publishers plan to produce his books.

imagesOvernight success?  No I don’t think so.  He’s been doing the work and it’s now beginning to pay off financially. It always paid off professionally and creatively and now it is paying off financially.

If you’re a writer, a consultant, a yoga teacher, an artist, a writer,  or in any creative profession just do the work.  Just keep on doing the work.  You will have the intrinsic reward of being able to do the work.  You’ll be getting better and better.

And put the work out there.  If the work is that good, people will come to you. They’ll find you.

I tried for many years to be a columnist.  I sent sample columns to the Boston Globe, Japan Times, LA Times, but only got ignored and rejected.  I gave up writing for a while and focused on my teaching and consulting.  I started writing again about 6 years ago.

I didn’t pitch any more newspapers, but I did  put my writing out there on  blogs, on social media, on youtube.   I started getting offers from magazines and on-line news channels.  I was a columnist for one online magazine for two years.

Once I started putting my work out there for people to see, even more chances have come my way.  More than I ever expected. No matter what you do, let people see what you do.  If you’re a writer, write. If you’re an artist, paint.

Sometimes achieving success works in the same way as finding love.  Don’t go looking, don’t look desperate. Do what you do and what or who you want will come to you.

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The Problem With Safety

May 27, 2013

The job is safe. It’s secure. I know it.  It pays well.

That’s what I hear from people when they talk about staying at a job that no longer challenges them.  They offer these as reasons  for staying in a job they don’t like and not doing something else.

They say they will make a change some day.  Some day?  Do they know how long they will live?  Do they know when they will die?

Do they think they will live forever?

Every day, we have a chance to show our courage and step out of the prison of our own thinking.  We have a chance to take a step outside of any rut that we are in.

We can find some new friends.  We could call the nice guy we met at a friend’s party.  We can find the time to read a book.  We could eat that raw oyster.

But something stops us.  We may say to ourselves, “I’m too busy”, or “the timing is wrong”, or “I tried that before”. There is no end of reasons we can come up with. riskBut it’s really the lack of courage that stops us. We get used to certain patterns in our life and we lack the courage to change them. Of course, there is a risk.  But there are also rewards.

But the lack of courage creates its own kind of hell.  In the words of writer and spiritual healer Stephen Levine,

“Safety is the most unsafe spiritual path you can take.  Safety keeps you numb and dead. People are caught by surprise when it comes time to die.  They have allowed themselves to live so little.”

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Want to Get Unstuck? You Don’t Have To Be A Hero

May 9, 2013

It’s complacency, lack of courage, and fear that keep us stuck where we are

Start taking small steps towards the life you want.  Talk to a friend in another department about a transfer.  Invite a new colleague to join you for lunch. Ask the cross-roadswaiter to take the burnt lamb chop back to the kitchen for the rare one as you requested.

Small steps lead to larger steps.  Courage builds up over time, especially when your courage has positive results. Eleanor Roosevelt, the  longest-serving First Lady of the United States, who was married to President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s four terms in office wrote:

“Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight.

Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.”

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Cutting Costs? Leading Change? Start At The Top

May 8, 2013

My client, Jake Kincaid, headed a pharmaceuticals firm in Japan when I worked as his consultant on workplace issues.

He wanted to implement cost-cutting measures, and he told me he couldn’t understand the Japanese people who worked for him. The company’s employees were resisting change, he said. He couldn’t get them to fully implement cost-cutting measures. How come?

Look At The Small ThingsJake had overheard a group of employees complaining about his full time driver and limousine—one of the perks of his job. The car would pick him up at home in the morning, take him to appointments and take him home at night. The driver would sometimes take Jake’s wife to her yoga and aerobics classes or out to Kamakura to visit friends.

Jake and his wife figured it was better to have the chauffeur do something rather than just hang around and wait. After all, the car and driver was his perk and Jake could decide what he should do.

I told him that I also had heard some complaining about his car, which had come to symbolize the inequality at the firm. Employees told me they didn’t think they should cut costs as long as Jake held on to this expensive perk. He disagreed. He kept the perk, and after a few months, gave up on the cutting expenses and started cutting employees. As you might expect, motivation plummeted and some of the best talent left.  Even Jake left a year later.

If Jake had just given up the car, taken the train or taxis like the rest of the employees, he would have had an easier time getting people to accept the changes. He also could have saved money on consultants and training programs designed to get employees to implement the cuts and work together.

Cutting Costs or leading change?  What action can you take that will make a difference and set an example? What can you change about yourself?

 

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6 Ways To Network Without Being a Jerk

April 27, 2013

When I hear that someone is a good networker, the image that pops up for me is not a positive one.

images-4For me, these “networkers” run around trying to meet as many people as they can. They pass out their name card to anyone who has their hand out.

I see people losing their integrity at these “networking events.

There are too many of  those “conversations where people  look right through you  to see if they can find someone “more important ” to talk with.

It’s as if they are a scud missile looking for a “high value target”.

This may sound like a stereotype but it’s validated more times than I can count.

I  like meeting new people and making business connections, but I follow some guidelines so I can enjoy myself and not come home feeling empty and  exhausted.

You can expand your business and influence through networking but you don’t have to be a jerk about it.

I call this approach, ” networking without being a Jerk”.

1.  Have a few interesting conversations rather than many superficial ones.

2.  Have an unusual way of describing what you do.  Instead of telling people I’m a consultant  [which usually brings yawns],  I  say, ‘I help people have the kind of life they want at work.’ Think of talking about what you do in an interesting way.

3.  Take a genuine interest in the person you’re talking too. Ask Questions.  Be curious.  Keep Eye Contact With The Person You’re Talking With.  Don’t be looking for someone you want to pitch. Don’t fake it either.

4. Don’t Try To Sell Anyone Anything.  Instead, Follow Up With An Email If You Want To Sell Something or Meet Up.

images-25.  Don’t Embarass Anyone, especially yourself or the speaker.  Last month, I was with a group and one academic acted like he was asking a question but he really  was just trying to impress everyone with his knowledge. Be honest. Tell the truth.

6.  Enjoy Yourself. I mean it. Have fun when you go to these events.  Go there without any outcomes in mind other than this and you’ll soon find that people will want to meet YOU!

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Work Not Working? The First Step To Get The Work You Want

April 25, 2013

Ken Sato, my new client, [not his real name] sat right across from me, looked me straight in the eye and  told me, “work’s got to be better than this.”

Most people would think Ken had it made.  He was only 37 and had what most people would call success.  We were sitting on $1,000 chairs around a huge mahogany table in the executive board room on the 39th floor of one of Tokyo’s newest skyscrapers.  But Ken, the  president of a giant insurance company, wasn’t happy. He was serious when he told me he wanted his life at work to be better.

images-1He had an idea of what he wanted work to be, but this certainly wasn’t it.  Being a senior officer of this big company looked good but the way he saw it, work was one set of problems after another.

It was late night conference calls, it was investigations by the government regulating agencies, it was conferences with analysts to explain why profitability was up or down, and it was a stream of emails from the regional CEO that were all marked urgent.   Some days things slowed down, but on those days he was bored.

He told me he disliked the  people he worked with too, even though he had hired most of them. He described them as too conservative or incompetent.  In his opinion, his boss was the worst of them all. Ken called him “a control freak”, and even though his boss was in Singapore, he managed to micromanage Ken.

I used to be  shocked when I heard what Ken said, but not anymore.  I meet  people like Ken every day:  Bankers, Lawyers, medical doctors, assistant professors, high tech entrepreneurs.  They all have what look like very good jobs with good income, but the work is just not working out  the way they want.  They’re too busy, they’re not busy enough, they’re hassled,  they’re not challenged enough, there’s too much pressure, they’re not learning enough.  Put simply, work isn’t working and they are not having the kind of life they want at work.

Most are worried about what else they could do or what actions they can take.  In some cases, they tell me they “keep busy in order not to think”, “can’t sleep”, can’t escape from worrying”, they “want to do something else” or they “love their job, it’s their boss they hate”. Others tell me  it’s “the clients/ the vendors/ the employees who are driving them crazy”.

I don’t tell them to change jobs.  That’s a common solution, but it doesn’t alway work.   What I see over and over is someone changes jobs and within a year they have the same kinds of problems in the new job that they had with the old one.  Unless the underlying problem is fixed, the complaints start all over again.

544145_10151428523957632_453691242_nI don’t tell them to take a vacation either.  That’s  a very short term solution that never works.  You know, after being back just one day after a vacation, it’s like you never left.  I have clients who leave Tokyo every weekend for an onsen or an expensive hotel. “Work is hell”, they tell me, “so I need to escape”.  As pleasurable as these places are, their trips are not so much for enjoyment as they are for forgetting the week.  “Why not develop a more satisfying way of working”, I suggest to them.

I also don’t tell them “the hell with their family” or “their boss is a jerk”.  We all need people to support us and  we have to learn how to work with many different kinds of people. Part of our job is handling the boss, the clients and the people we work with.

What I do tell them is that work can be a whole lot better and they can have the kind of life they want to work.  The first message I delivered to Ken and hundreds of people like him is a very tough message:  the underlying problem really lies inside them.

Yes, it starts with you. It’s not an easy notion for many people to accept.

We can easily get locked in to seeing our situation in a fixed way.

It Starts With You

I used to wonder why some people were not having the kind of life they wanted at work. They’re smart.  They have a huge set of skills, a good education, money, graduate degrees.   In fact,  it looks like they have everything. Shouldn’t work be better?  Shouldn’t life be better?  After all, work is such a big part of life.

But often they have thought of career first and themselves second. They had things backwards. The first step is knowing yourself.  That is the foundation on which working the way you want is based.

I always ask new clients  “What do you want? What kind of life at work would you like to have?  You’d think I was asking them to solve a complex algorithm without a calculator because the most frequent  answer I get is, “ I don’t know. I don’t know what I want.”

In some cases, a client will say  “I know what I want, but I don’t think I can ever have it.  “My wife wouldn’t let me take that job”, or “I’ll become homeless if I take that kind of job.” But now is not the time for thinking about obstacles. It’s the time to think of what you really want.

It’s  possible to change your beliefs and widen your perceptions. It requires you to be willing to suspend some of your current beliefs and living more in the moment, being conscious of what is happening now, not yesterday, not next week, but now.

Some  have forgotten what they want.  Others don’t believe that they can ever obtain what they want, so they keep it hidden. Still others have been so busy focusing on work that they haven’t really thought about what they want. Others fear that if they say what they want, they may be setting themselves up for disappointment if they can not achieve it.

I’m always skeptical when I hear people say, “I don’t know what I want.”   It comes out too easily.  Often the person really does know what they want. Or at least they know what they once wanted.  It’s safe not to  acknowledge what they want since with acknowledgement comes the responsibility of taking some action to obtain it.  Instead, they keep  what they want hidden and say, “I don’t know.”

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6 Presentation Mistakes To Avoid

April 17, 2013

You’ve seen hundreds of presentations. Me too. I’ve seen good ones, great ones and a lot of bad ones. I wish it were different. There are times when I sit  in the audience, and think, “didn’t this person have any training or any practice before this presentation?” Maybe the answer is yes, but sometimes it’s hard to tell. We’d all like to see and give  better presentations.   If you want to get better, make a list of what works and what doesn’t for you and others. Here are 6 Mistakes  to avoid.  Make it your goal to stop making them when you give your next presentation.

1. Eyes On The screen.  Hey, there’s an audience out there.  Your eyes should be on them. You don’t have to stare, but make a connection with the people there. images-10

2. Reading From The Slides.  Uh-uh.  No, no, no! Don’t read from the slides.   Talk from your notes.    Don’t read  a prepared script either. The audience can look at the slides,  not hearing you read what’s there.

3Focusing on the Presentation.  You might think this is what you’re supposed to do. It’s true, but it’s even more important to focus on the audience. Be ready to change the presentation to fit the audience.  Be flexible. Focus on reaching the audience, not getting the information out.

4. Using Complete Sentences on Slides.  You don’t need sentences– phrases are enough. Short phrases in fact.  The slides are for the audience, not for you.  You augment what is on the slides with what you say. Oops-Freedigitalphotos.net-digitalart

5. Standing In Front of The Projector  or The Screen.    Obviously when you are blocking the screen, people can’t see very much. It’s not as easy as it seems, unless you get some hand signals from the audience. If you are using a monitor you can figure out the best place to stand.

6. Asking Friends and Colleagues for Feedback.  I know feedback helps people get better at what they do. But something different happens when it comes to presentations. Don’t expect your colleagues to give you honest feedback. More likely they will be gentle with you so you will be gentle with them when they present.   Make these mistakes at your own peril.  Stop making them and people will come up to you and say, “great presentation”, and they’ll mean it.

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