The job is safe. It’s secure. I know it. It pays well.
That’s what I hear from people when they talk about staying at a job that no longer challenges them. They offer these as reasons for staying in a job they don’t like and not doing something else.
They say they will make a change some day. Some day? Do they know how long they will live? Do they know when they will die?
Do they think they will live forever?
Every day, we have a chance to show our courage and step out of the prison of our own thinking. We have a chance to take a step outside of any rut that we are in.
We can find some new friends. We could call the nice guy we met at a friend’s party. We can find the time to read a book. We could eat that raw oyster.
But something stops us. We may say to ourselves, “I’m too busy”, or “the timing is wrong”, or “I tried that before”. There is no end of reasons we can come up with. But it’s really the lack of courage that stops us. We get used to certain patterns in our life and we lack the courage to change them. Of course, there is a risk. But there are also rewards.
But the lack of courage creates its own kind of hell. In the words of writer and spiritual healer Stephen Levine,
“Safety is the most unsafe spiritual path you can take. Safety keeps you numb and dead. People are caught by surprise when it comes time to die. They have allowed themselves to live so little.”