Nice is the last thing I wanted to be when I first started in the consulting business.  I wanted to be known as tough, bright and sharp.  Nor did I want to be a “nice guy” when I was a university student.  I hated it when girls said that about me.  It was like a rejection. But now, I think it’s one of the best things that can be said about people.  I have nice friends.  That’s why they are…

I take the front seat on roller coasters.  I quit jobs when they get boring.  I eat sea urchin and raw oysters.  I put my thoughts out there on this blog and other places. I’m not one who is afraid to take risks. I give talks about courage and fear.    If I do all of these things, why is it that there are days when fear seems to come over me like a wave? It’s not the kind of fear…

I was sitting with a CEO of a small chemical company over lunch yesterday. It’s someone I’ve known for a while.  One of his VPs was there and told us their best sales rep  was quitting and going to work for the competition. His answer: “why didn’t I know about this?” The VP told him he tried to tell him before, but the CEO  was too busy, in  meetings, or rushing out to pick up his kids. He told him,…

Worry is such a seductive trap.    It’s something to do when we really should be doing something else.  It’s like a cloud that hangs over us. If you worry about getting a report done , the worry keeps you from doing it.  But,  it almost seems as if you are doing the report because you are worrying about it.. It’s worry that keeps us from getting things done.  It is worry that gets in the way of our living…