As a consultant, I  hear people talk about other people as resources, as human capital, as skill sets, as a set of competencies. When I hear these terms, I want to run the other way and yell, “what has work become”? Thankfully when companies hire me to work with them,  they tell me they want someone who can get people excited,  someone authentic, someone who can listen, someone who can bring people together. Chemistry is important they tell me, and…

When economist John Maynard Keynes wrote, “the difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones,”  he was referring to ideas, but the same applies to people: leaving certain people is the hardest part. But leave we must.  When we want our life to be better, one of the first steps is to get rid of the jerks. Jerks are those people who regularly waste your time, the ones who don’t value you, the…

Every day, we have a chance to show our courage. We could have that uncomfortable conversation with a colleague who is bothering us.  We could call the venture capitalist we met at a friend’s party and pitch a couple of business ideas. We could talk to our boss about the project we really would love to do. We could tell our parents we won’t be making the sixteen-hour flight to come home for the holidays. We could try that sea…

I don’t miss my old car, bubble gum or the snow in Boston.  But I really do miss lulls.   That’s right. Lulls. L-U-L-L-S. You know lulls, don’t you? They are those times in a conversation when neither party knows what to say and both parties are temporarily silent. Those lulls forced us to think.    Those lulls pushed us to  either think of something to say or end the conversation.  Our conversation reached a standstill so we had to…