Cute, Sexy, Smart & Rich These are not things you say about yourself. Never.  [Not even in a personal ad]   Other people should say these things about you, not you about yourself. When you hear someone say, “I’m rich,” walk the other way. Who cares anyway? Unless they’re sharing.

I was lucky, and I knew it the minute I heard it. Many years ago, when I was changing jobs, my friend [who also happened to be my accountant] asked me “what kind of lifestyle do you want?” The lifestyle question is a wonderful place to begin your job search. Everyone else will ask which industry you want or how much money you want to make. But think about it. It’s not about whether you choose finance or high fashion….

Sometimes I hear from people that “someone is driving them crazy. ” It happens to me too, but truthfully no one can drive you crazy unless you let them drive you crazy. I have worked with a few people who [it seemed to me] went out of their way to make my life difficult, but as I think back on it, I was hooked in to them in some emotional way. They said some stuff that pushed my buttons and…

There is no other way to say it.  When I hear people talk about competencies, monetization, upskilling, and feedback loops , I’m ready to leave the room. Why has the language of business become so inhuman? Humans do the work. Humans are the assets that companies ostensibly are proud of, but the language of business is right out of the military and machinery. I hate the word alignment.  Today, I was thinking how inappropriate it is.  It sounds like something…

I’m sitting in Starbucks.  Don’t ever conduct performance appraisals here. That said, I often see people conducting performance reviews here–and not just Starbucks staff.  People from all kinds of companies. Starbucks is not the place to have a private conversation. It’s the wrong place. No privacy. People like me eavesdrop. No chance to show emotion either. But maybe that’s what people want. Today’s the worst. In the space of an hour, this is what I’ve [over] heard and my response….