When I was suffering from plantar fascitis   I had  a shot of cortisone  in my right heel.  The shot was painful but it was more painful to see the look on H’s face when the doctor  stuck the needle in. I could tolerate the needle, but I couldn’t watch H writhe in pain. And the same is the case when I see some people work.  It’s painful to watch them. They take an easy job  and make it difficult.  They expend…

I’ll admit it. I don’t really get what’s so hard about time management.  Maybe I’m jealous of David Allen, the Getting Things Done guy who makes millions helping people get better at. But I don’t think that’s it. I think it’s that time management  seems to be a smokescreen for other kinds of problems. When people say time management, the problem is really something else, something more specific.  Like these:  Problems with assertiveness, problems with setting priorities, problems with transitions. These…

I was only in  Japan a few days before someone told me  that “the nail that sticks out gets hammered down.”    As an American, I was brought up with “the early bird catches the worm”, so I wasn’t sure what to make  of the proverb that I was hearing in Japan on an almost daily basis. I quickly learned that  I was hearing  an explanation of  a high degree of conformity and  a lack of willingness to take a…

My friend J told me I was crazy to quit my job as a visiting professor in Thailand. I was teaching at Thailand’s top university.They put me up in a great hotel and I lived as an expat. I ate great food  and I never experienced Japan’s summers or winter months because I would be in Thailand instead. Truthfully there were a lot of things I liked about the job. But for me, one thing was missing and that was…

When I was in graduate school, I had a lot of part time jobs.  I was a bartender, I demonstrated toys in a department store, I promoted a meditation program for losing weight [Being Thin], and I taught part-time at a local university. When I went to the local ABC TV station in Boston to promote my client, Being Thin, I had a great talk with the producer and the news director, who was Andy Rooney’s daughter.  They weren’t interested…